This is the next post in my series discussing how Las Vegas fathers can help manage the holiday season following a divorce. My last post explained the importance of discussing the custodial schedule and holiday season with your ex-wife ahead of time. In this post I will discuss the importance of talking to your children about holiday plans.
Children may feel anxiety regarding the holidays following a Las Vegas divorce
Many children are attached to their holiday traditions. When a family does not look the way it did before a divorce then children may feel a great deal of anxiety as the holiday season approaches – even if they do not vocalize their worries. Even if your children have not brought the subject up themselves, it is important for fathers to let their kids know what the plan is for all of the holidays so there is no uncertainty. If the family has a specific tradition or routine that will be upset because of the divorce then it is important for fathers to give their kids the opportunity to ask questions. A change in routine may also mean not seeing aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents as usual. It may also mean that children will not get to see both parents on the same day. It is important to be open with your children and ease any worry that they may have.
Las Vegas fathers can help develop new holiday traditions with children
No matter how sensitive parents try to be, the fact is that divorce is a change and children will have to get used to a change in their traditions. While this can be difficult, fathers can help their children adjust by fostering new holiday rituals. A father may wish to plan something special the day after the holidays, make a special event out of hunting for a Christmas tree, putting up lights, or some other event that he can do with the children. Reinforce to your children that the calendar day is not as important as doing something together that everyone can enjoy. Children will get into the spirit if their father is truly on board. So put any personal anger towards your ex aside and make your best possible effort to be positive for your children.
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